I love my husband...and i know he loves me too...but he's lost...?

You people should take up a counselling. And have a face to face soft discussion to understand the points from each other. For some time after listening to him, you think yourself in that position and yze how bad he did then take up a final decision. Also let him to think in your position after listening to your words and let him to yze what is bad in your behavior. This should solve your problem.