I love him so much, I need him in my life, but we can't do long distance. Can it ever work with us?

Wow, thats really hard :( If he's unhappy in Rochester and would truly like to go to NYC for the school and the place he should definitely transfer. However, you being there should be like an "added bonus." I feel like if you asked him to move down to NYC you're going to be worried all the time if he's doing too much and as you put it--what sacrifices should be made? That might cause unwanted tensions and I wouldnt want you to have to deal with that on top of the usual college stuff. Also, you'll always have him to come home to during break:) and if theres a will there's a way!! Long distance is hard stuff, but I do have friends that have boyfriends at different schools and are able to work things out. I guess the bottom line is just make sure that both of you are getting the most out of college and taking all the opportunities given to you--doing that shows how much you care. hope this helps :)